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So You Fell Back in Love…Now What?

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Final 3 Steps to Strength and Repair After the Affair

Take a second and remember where you were just weeks ago.  You couldn’t imagine surviving the earth shattering pain, let alone feeling this way about your partner that strayed.  

Let’s Have Some Fun

You get to co-create a life that will support the progress that you two have made, as well as, surround you with what matters most in life, more time.

 The final steps in this 3 Phase infidelity recovery program are, (1) slow down, (2) simplify, and (3) savor. 

How To Re-Engage With Your Cheating Spouse Without The RAGE

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Okay…With Containable Anger

So you’ve decided to give your marriage another chance.  But how in the hell are you two going to make this time different?

You two are about to embark on the journey through Phase II.  Remember in Phase I, it was all about triage and damage control from the trauma that ensued after the affair was revealed. 

In this next phase you both will get an opportunity to share your perspective about how the marriage was before the aftermath from a decision that threatened to take down your world.  

Do you remember the skills that you learned in Phase I, self-soothing and unyielding patience?  Good because you will need them to get through the upcoming exercises.  

What To Do In The IMMEDIATE Aftermath of An Affair

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How to recover from infidelity using this 3 phase method.

To The Betrayed,

Right now you feel utterly destroyed.  The amount of pain that you’re in is indescribable.

You want to scream, but the only sound that comes out is a broken roar from the unearthed sobs that you can’t control.  Your mind races from one end of the relationship to the other searching for answers.  Questions like, were there clues that you missed that could have alerted you this was coming, plague your mind.

It won’t STOP!   The story line that you can come up with has only bits and pieces flashing across the screen in your mind, like a faulty film reel.  So you beg your partner to relinquish the knowledge so that your mind can find peace.   Even though deep down you know more anguish is in the details, your mind won’t rest until it gets some answers.

THE CHEMISTRY OF AN AFFAIR

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For the longest time I was completely shocked by the amount of power an affair had on individuals.  It was as if the grips of infatuation my clients could not think rationally, were willing to give up the life they created with their spouse, and didn’t seem to care about the consequences to their behavior.  The best way that I can describe someone in the throws of a torrent affair is they appear to be under a spell, or some describe it as the affair fog.