Yes, you HAVE changed. And not always for the better. Does your marriage still resemble the relationship you had in the beginning? You’re probably thinking, Of course not. We created a life (AKA sh*t-storm) together, and that girl got benched. True your life HAS changed, but I think it’s more than that. I believe that we get so wrapped up in the expectations of being […]

Here’s a challenge for ya … That’s right, we now know the favorable formula for this sought after state of bliss. According to the Mayo Clinic, happiness is out there for everyone — once they adopt the “my glass is half full” mentality.  Can negative people actually do that? You bet! According to Shawn Achor, you’ll be much more optimistic and find happiness by doing five simple (positive) […]

There are a lot of things most of us don’t understand when it comes to health insurance.  One of the biggest misunderstandings that I have come across is what occurs when you choose to use your medical insurance for mental health services. At SMC we get a lot of phone calls from potential clients wanting […]

Today, you are going to learn how to pull apart self-worth from the number on the scale.  For example, lets say that a husband admits to not being sexually attracted to his wife anymore due to the significant amount of weight she has put on over the years.  The wife typically responds in two ways: devastated or defensive.  Either way it is extremely painful for the wife and this is why.  We have accepted this standard put on us by society that we are only good enough if we are model skinny and gorgeous.  We know that is impossible yet we feel that pressure and get a general sense of disregard if we do not abide by this expectation.

In today’s blog I want to speak to those that feel like they keep screwing up and asking for forgivingness over and over.  To those that feel they don’t deserve to be forgiven or given an second, third, or thirtieth chance.  

There are always going to be unknowns and yes that can be scary; however, if you know yourself, your capabilities, and your own resources you can run through the scenarios, fact check, and then move on.  It is okay to examine the worst case scenario but don’t dwell there.  There is just as much of a chance that you could succeed, as you could fail.  

Are you tired of WANTING, CRAVING, AND DREAMING OF CHANGE?  Do you find yourself frustrated that every time you try to change you slip back into old patterns?  Maybe you’re trying to motivate someone else to change only to be left with energy spent on your end and no movement on theirs.  

Many of my interventions that I use with clients suffering from anxiety and depression are past and future oriented.  We discuss the thought patterns, where the constructs originated, how to calm the mind and body, yet I tend to miss the present moment.  Currently, I am wrapping up a book called, The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.  First and foremost I encourage everyone to read this book and then reread it.  The message is loud and clear:  If we can be still and free this moment of our mind, then we can escape the feelings of depression or anxiousness.

Happy New Year! Awh yes, the time has come to ring in the new year; to new possibilities, new opportunities, and changes you would like to make.  This is the time of year that many (45% of the population) set out to achieve their goals, over come a fear, or cross off something from their […]

I know I am not alone when I say, it gets really easy to slip into these boring funks as parents.  I believe it’s due to copious amount of pressure we put on ourselves to be perfect that we forget that its the simple imperfections that connect us as humans.  How many times have you seen a girl pull out her perfectly organized coupon holder and thought, huh we are both anal about our coupons, I feel like I’m not alone?  Chances are NEVER, on the other hand, when have you seen a mom rushing her kids into the school, hair in disarray as she tries to make the second bell, and thought, thank gosh I’m not the only one that doesn’t have my (bleep) together.  Which one are you more likely to feel more connected to?