Category: Counseling Blog

Mental health advice.

Communication Blunders: Are They To Blame For Your Failing Relationship?

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The #1 down fall in marriages is lack of communication skills.  

But is your relationship success dependent on how well you communicate or could it be more? According to the University of Georgia effective communication is not as crucial as once predicted.  

Almost every couple that comes in for marriage counseling searches for communication skills.  And yet, when I sit with the same couples I see that they communicate just fine.  For example, if you think that your partner is a lazy, inconsiderate waste of space, I bet he hears you loud and clear.  

Couples are NOT bad communicators.  They are terrible listeners.

#1 Reason Your HUGE Heart Can Betray You & Your Happiness

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Awe yes that feeling you get when you help someone.  

It’s euphoric, gratifying, and it’s a HUGE distraction.    

In this fast paced world if you don’t seize opportunities to discover who you are and what your life’s purpose is, chances are it’ll be over before you show up.  And always signing up to help others is a great distraction from the real work you must do to truly feel fulfilled.  

Keeping Up With Societal Expectations

We run too fast and forget to ask ourselves is this where I’m suppose to be.  We go from having the world by the tail to married with babies, in what seems to be a blink of an eye.  From doctors appointments, to cleaning the house, to shuttling the kids to activities, finding time to check in with yourself is few and far between.  

The #1 Thing That You NEED To Do As A Parent

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Parents are everything to their kids.

You fend away bad dreams, kiss boo boos, and shuttle your tiny tot to far away places.  But the number one thing that you do as a parent is teach.

Teaching is The Main Act of Parenting

As parents we teach in a variety of ways.  Direct teaching includes showing your kid how to put her dirty clothes in the hamper or your son how to tie his shoes.  But indirect teaching is where the majority of childhood education occurs.  This style happens in between the “teachable moments”.  When we forget that our kids are watching.

Do You Have To Be Drugged To Stay Married?

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According to this HUGE study, many say I do to anti-depressants after that vows are exchanged.

A startling 20 year study found that an alarming amount of psychiatrists prescribe anti-depressants to married men and women that don’t meet the current DSM criteria for depression.

It’s safe to say that our partners can royally piss us off, frustrate us beyond belief, and cause us to feel waves upon waves of pain.  But to be put on a drug to wade through the woes, I think that’s going too far.

Instead of taking a pill to stay in a situation, whether it’s your job, marriage, or life, wouldn’t you rather change the circumstance all together?

Why is it that we don’t want to look at options that don’t come with a mile long list of side-effects?  

Wonder About New Parent Sex Lives? Here’s A Peak

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Awe… Welcome to parenthood.  The land of feeling like you are NEVER doing enough.  

A recent study agrees.  You can’t do it all, especially when you’re a new mom.  Having a baby enter the mix is a BIG transition and it takes a toll on the new mama’s libido.  

Besides the stress from becoming a new mom lets be honest and say, we don’t feel sexy after popping out a 9-pound melon.  We have this overwhelming urge to hold our young and nurture like crazy.  We become this mother hen clucking around the house making sure all is well.  

I don’t know about you but when I’m in “mom” mode I can’t just drop my panties and get into dirty wifey mode.  It’s polar opposite states of mind, especially in the beginning stages of parenthood.  

How To NOT Let Your Insecurities Run Your Mouth

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We all have insecurities.

Some are insecure about the way that they look, personality traits, or social status.  What sucks is when someone allows their insecurities to foam from their mouth to bring others down in order to lift themselves up.

This tactic or strategy is caused from the inferiority complex.  The idea is that if you feel awful about yourself, you say and do things to make others feel even worse, in hopes that you make yourself feel better.  

In reality, you crush the people around you, making them want to scatter and hide, which reaffirms the negative things you believed about yourself in the first place.

The SHOCKING Statistic About Social Media And Time

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Is this your 9th or 15th time on social media today?

A study revealed that we check our social media accounts, on average, 17 times per day.  To some that may not seem like a lot, but add it up.  At 10 minutes a check and that’s almost 3-hours of your day, gone.  And for what?

Oh Good Lord The Inefficiency Is Out of Control!

When we get distracted during a task, like emailing for work and then clicking over to our newsfeed, it takes us over 23-minutes to get back to the same work efficiency that we were at pre-post check.  

What Makes You Happier: More Time or More Money?

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The Answer Will Surprise You

If you had a money tree in your back yard, your life might get easier but it wouldn’t make you happy.

According to a new study published in the journal of Social Psychological & Personality Science those that value time over money are happier.  

Which makes sense since stuff doesn’t bring us lasting happiness, it’s the anticipation leading up to the purchase that does.

And when you hear yourself say, “When I have more time, I’m going to (INSERT SOME FUN EXPERIENCE),” the activity typically involves another person and/or makes a memory, which does bring us lasting joy. 

So Why Do We Continue To Chase The Dollar If Time Is What We Need?

So You Fell Back in Love…Now What?

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Final 3 Steps to Strength and Repair After the Affair

Take a second and remember where you were just weeks ago.  You couldn’t imagine surviving the earth shattering pain, let alone feeling this way about your partner that strayed.  

Let’s Have Some Fun

You get to co-create a life that will support the progress that you two have made, as well as, surround you with what matters most in life, more time.

 The final steps in this 3 Phase infidelity recovery program are, (1) slow down, (2) simplify, and (3) savor.