Many are waking up this week pissed, hurt, and confused.
If the spending average for Valentines day is $142.31, how come your partner couldn’t even get you a card?
Men and women have a love-hate relationship with Valentines day. Whether you believe it’s a glorified Hallmark joke or secretly look forward to being doted on, it can be a royal thorn in the relationship’s side.
For women, it’s not even what he’ll get me that runs your mind leading up to the big reveal, it’s will he get me anything at all.
And for men who do believe this is a plan devised to take more of their money, it’s the biggest joke and many protest any involvement.
Men (and yes, woman too) are very stubborn and when there’s a holiday adorned in pink that requires them to leave work early in order to go out and buy over priced roses just to say, “I love you” they’re going to push back.
I get it. For the longest time I was a member of anti-v-day camp. I believed it was a greedy ploy to get more money into societies revenue stream.
AND I have to admit that every year when the 14th would roll around I would find myself in a double bind. On one hand, I didn’t want anything, but on the other I would secretly wonder if he would get me something.
What’s That About?
Well to answer that you need to understand how I define this pink/red occasion.
Valentines day is a celebration of the relationship and love that you share. It’s a reminder to slow down and give each other attention. As busy as we are in today’s fast paced society, we need this moment to pause more than ever.
It’s nice to have a built in reminder to slow down and remember why you’re grinding in the first place? Once I could define what Valentines day means to me, and explained it to my husband, he hasn’t made me wonder what the 14th would bring since.
Shouldn’t You Do That Everyday?
YES! But who here has the time to consistently show up and be present with you partner? Who remembers at the end of the day to stop everything and focus on each other? Not many. That’s not how our society works today.
You run your a$$ into the ground on a daily, then get back up and do it again and again.
The point is, now more than ever before you need a glorified Hallmark hoax to stop you even for 15-minutes, to get a card, or a little token of love to remind your partner how much you appreciate your love.
So redefine what Valentines day means to you and embrace the built in reminder!
Jessica is the author of Back 2 Love and How to Start a Mental Health Private Practice. Check out her YouTube, Super Living for more great relationship tips. Jessica owns a private practice in New Prague, Minnesota where she lives with her husband, two children, and two pups.